STUMBLING INTO MY PURPOSE
After the movie, I traveled extensively, speaking at education conferences and schools by day, concerts and clubs by night. Music goes past the conscious mind and goes straight to the soul, so for both audiences, I gave people what they needed in the way the best received it. I merged entertainment with education. I called it the pill in the dog food approach.
The relationship was reciprocal. I got as much as I gave. The biggest return was getting clearer about my purpose. As I spoke with the people at my shows, listened to the personal stories of the artists I mentored and looked into my own life, I noticed a pattern.
Most of the things that we all were dealing with, were connected to the failure of the relationship between our parents. When romantic relationships failed, the children from those unions suffered [I talk about this in my TED talk].
They become adults and repeat the cycle. Dysfunction gets handed down from generation to generation. In a quest to get to the root of the problem, I became obsessed with the study of successful relationships, conflict resolution and psychology behind why people do the things that they do.
In addition to schooling, independent study, experts interview and focus groups, I also worked on me. I wanted to practice what I preached, so I could speak to a connected place. I wanted to be able to say "I've been there. I know what you are going through." "Here is what I did."
When I think back to when I was in the orphanage, music business, non-profit sector or hanging out with friends and family, I was always the go-to guy for finding out how to solve relationship challenges and overcome obstacles. My ability to defeat challenges came so naturally, that I often did't see it as a gift. But it was. And other people saw it better than I did. It is hard to see the picture when you standing in the frame. It is not until you look in the mirror can you really see yourself. Taking time to reflect has helped me to realize what my purpose is.
I stumbled into our purpose. It was through the process of following my passion, that I found it. I never intended to become a coach but I have come to learn first hand that, God puts you through a process to give you your purpose. The signs were there along, but in retrospect, you often see what you couldn't see at the moment. Hindsight is 20/20.
COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY
My purpose is to help people communicate better. The cause and the cure of most relationship challenges is what Throughout my amazing journey of trials and triumphs, I have learned that success first starts with the conversation in your head. That ‘communication’ ripples out to all areas of your life.
It’s cliché, but it really is true that communication is the key to success! It is also the biggest obstacle as well. This is why I focus my practice in this area.
I have Master’s level understanding of the type of language, love and laughter that creates happy healthy relationships.